In Part Four of Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles he focuses on how to Create Successful Relationships.
Principle #48 “Be Hear Now”.
Listen a hundred times. Ponder a thousand times. Speak Once.
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Here are a few ideas on how we can “Be Hear Now”:
Argue Less and Listen More.
Be Interested Rather then Interesting.
Ask Powerful Questions.
Be Fully Present.
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“Coaching is one of the most powerful forces for change in the world” says one of my mentors, Christian Mickelsen.
Bob Nardelli, former CEO of Home Depot and Chrysler, goes as far as to say “I absolutely believe that people, unless coached, never reach their maximum capabilities”.
Want to get to where you’re going faster? “Hire a personal coach” says Jack Canfield in Principle #45.
I agree. I believe in coaching. I know, I am a coach and a pretty good one…I’m just not good at coaching myself. I think, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll agree that you’re not the best coach for you either.
Coaches help you see what you can’t see.
See for yourself….
Have you ever said to yourself, or even out loud, “It’s easier if I just do it myself.”?
It’s a common theme for many of us. The results however are not always very productive since we rob ourselves of time and energy, increase our sense of frustration and deny someone the opportunity to learn and grow.
In Principle 41 the advice from Jack Canfield is to Build a Powerful Support Team and Delegate to them.
Do what you do best and hire out the rest!
And… take this advice from General George S. Patton “Don’t tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.”
Yep…I just stated the obvious.
The real questions are what habits are helping you and what habits are harming you?
In Principle #34 of The Success Principles Jack Canfield points out…”good or bad, habits always deliver results”.
He suggests making a list of all the habits that are not helping you (here are some examples to get you thinking):
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny” Gandhi
“I still don’t know what I was waiting for …” lyrics and song by David Bowie https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pl3vxEudif8
Principle 31 encourages us to Embrace Change.
Jack Canfield reminds us that “change is inevitable “.
What’s changing in your life?
Are you embracing or resisting the change(s)?
What could you do differently, that you’re not doing now, to embrace change?
What ARE you waiting for?
And Your Incompletes advises Principle #28.
Easier said than done…that junk closet you’ve been meaning to get to, that letter you’ve been meaning to write, that project you started and didn’t finish or that difficult conversation you know you need to have.
Jack Canfield offers up a system that makes a lot of sense; The Cycle of Completion:
You’ll feel so much better in every way: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually when you can let the weight of your messes and incompletes go.
Let me know what mess you’re going to start cleaning up by hitting reply and sharing. I want to support you and cheer you on…..
“Do Good. Take Credit.” I remember hearing this from a mentor, Jim Hughes, founder of The Brand Establishment.
At first I just smiled however as the years have gone by and I have worked with hundreds of people I notice more and more that we tend to focus on what we haven’t done instead of what we have done, or perhaps continually move the success bar so it’s always just out of reach.
In Principle #26 the invitation is to “Acknowledge Your Positive Past”. There’s a great exercise Jack Canfield suggests:
I hope you’ll take the time to actually do this and share it…Do Good. Take Credit.
Who are you hanging out with?
Nay Sayers or Yay Sayers?
I have created a group of friends and business associates who are positive thinkers and offer generous support to those in their lives.
I’d say I hang out with Yay Sayers!
One thing about Nay Sayers they’re not that fond of hanging with Yay Sayers…we tend spoil all their fun and they often fall away naturally.
With Success Principle 25 Jack Canfield encourages us to “Drop Out of the Ain’t it Awful Club…and Surround Ourselves with Successful People”.
And remember according to Jim John…you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Who are you hanging out with?
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There’s a lot to be said in honoring your word or even better…over delivering on your promise!
Think back to a time when you surprised someone by doing just that.
Think back to a time when someone surprised you by doing that for you!
These moments are important because we make or experience something special and memorable.
I have a friend, Alina Vincent, who I think Jack Canfield must have had in mind when he came up with Principle 24… Exceed Expectations.
Alina is a business coach, brilliant strategist and trainer. I have known Alina and been a grateful student for years. I think the secret to her success is her ability to always over deliver on her promises…to always Exceed Expectations!
If you’re a business owner looking to increase your online presence Alina’s Visibility Kickstarter Challenge is coming soon.
Look for emails from me, sign up, and experience for yourself what’s its like to be WOW’d!
Because it’s not always going to be easy. Principle #22.
There will be disappointments and failures on your way to manifesting your dreams and desires.
On your way through your disappointments and failures “Practice the Rule of 5”, Principle #23, in which Jack Canfield recommends that ,every day, you do five specific things that will move your goal toward completion.
I like this concept because it reduces that lengthily, never ending today list to just 5!
What 5 things will you focus on this week?
PS: If you need help identifying your top 5 lets hop on the phone and let me help you: https://my.timetrade.com/book/XSMP2
PSPS: One of my coaches pointed out one time that I can’t see what’s on the tip of my nose but she can…perhaps I can do the same for you.
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